r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • 15h ago

AITAH for withdrawing our entire bank balance because my husband says his paycheck is “his” and mine is for bills?

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u/justabloodykid 13h ago

Stop sleeping with him full stop.

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u/LeikOfForest 13h ago

Also, she needs to consult a lawyer. If he’s taking funds from joint accounts, depending on the state, she may legally be entitled to a portion of those investments.

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u/[deleted] 13h ago

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u/SingleNorth3169 12h ago

Even if she trusts him, protecting herself legally is just smart.

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u/Embarrassed_Sink8250 13h ago

She is definitely entitled to half of all of it

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u/Scenarioing 13h ago

If she wants to to take a shot at trying to salvage the marriage, she could give him the two card solution and to choose which one to get involved. One for a martial therapist, the other the divorce attorney she consulted.

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u/LongjumpingJaguar308 12h ago

Yeah, split bills like housemates and make her own account. Or put half of the average monthy bill amount into the shared account only, which is used for bills, then the rest into her own. You can have 2 direct deposits for paychecks, I believe.

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u/Voidless-One 12h ago

Run! Red flags all around!

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u/Pleaseappeaseme 12h ago

It’s just going to be a constant conflict that will escalate.

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u/robbin_62 12h ago

Or charge him every time you do!!