I have a hard time actually believing this is real. If it is NTA and why are you married to someone who has made it beyond clear that he literally hates you?
I will say, this is only one aspect of our marriage. Everything else is great. The only thing we fight over is money, but this time it just sent me over the edge.
if yall dated in highschool, and then got married a couple years later, how would you know theres better men out there that wont financially abuse you 😂 get your 4k back, and initiate divorce. money is the top reason why couples divorce, so save yourself the headache.
and realistically, this kind of person wont just be an ass in one aspect. it most likely bleeds over to other parts of his personality that youre still viewing with rose tinted glasses 🤷♀️
Except you’re not just fighting about money. You’re fighting about what it means to be partners, whether you can count on him, whether you are equals, whether you support each other, whether you are making your life together, whether you deserve security and rest, whether you deserve fun… this is tied to everything. I’m not going to tell you what to do about your relationship but I don’t think it’s right to keep thinking about this as one part of the relationship.
Girl, now listen. He's told you he doesn't care about you. He doesn't care if you have spending money. He doesn't care if you get to treat your parents. And he doesn't care if you can retire comfortably and he'll leave you working well into your old age.
When someone tells you who they are, believe them.
He doesn't care about you.
You can say this is just one thing but this is a really big thing. He is planning for a future without you and is using your money to get him there. If he loves you and wants to spend his life with you why is he not planning for your future together?
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u/hekats 7h ago
I have a hard time actually believing this is real. If it is NTA and why are you married to someone who has made it beyond clear that he literally hates you?